10 Ways Marriage is Different from Dating

Marriage  February marks four years that my husband and I have officially been a couple. We were married in September of last year and in that time I have learned many things about marriage. I must admit that marriage really is different than dating. Take a look at my list of 10 ways marriage is different and see if it stacks up to your experience.

1. You are committed to each other. Prior to getting married I always knew I would be with Gabe but it wasn’t a declaration of commitment. It is nice to know that we cannot just leave each other on a whim we have to stick it out and make it work. That’s what we promised each other.

2. You start to think about a family. When you’re dating someone even if you have been together for years you usually only start thinking about a family when marriage enters the picture. I’m not saying that people cannot have families without a marriage I’m simply stating that most people don’t consider it until they are married. That has been my personal experience.

3. The world no longer revolves around you. Even when you are engaged (especially as a woman) you feel like the world revolves around you. Everyone wants to know what you’re ring looks like, what you will be wearing on the big day, and where you will be getting married. But after the wedding day all that goes away. You now live for your husband and he lives for you. The world does not care about your relationship anymore.

4. Independence is a thing of past. Not complete independence, but independence in the sense of single-hood. You cannot just pick up and leave without considering your spouse. Every decision you make directly affects the other person.

5.  You stop looking for new relationships. Even when you are in a short-term relationship you can still find yourself looking at other guys and sizing up their potential. But once you are married that comes to an end (it really should long before that, but you get the idea).

6. You now have a full-time partner in crime. When you are dating you’re still technically on your own. But marriage gives you a full-time partner to face whatever obstacle comes your way in life. Gabe and I have had our fair share of obstacles even in the past four months that we’ve been married and I am lucky to have had him by my side the entire time.

7. It involves work. Unlike short-term relationships, marriage is hard work. If you argue you can’t just leave, it is now your responsibility to make it work no matter what.

8. The sex is better. Sure you can have hott one night stands with somebody here and there but married sex is so much better. You get to know each other likes and you don’t have to wear condoms if you don’t want to!

9. Your finances merge. Once again, this is the case with most long-term relationships but once you get married it’s a must. No more separate accounts, the cheque’s have both of your names on them now.

10. It is more fun. All of my experiences with dating have involved playing head games, now that I am married I never have to play those games again. Gabe and I don’t worry whether or not we love each other and that leaves the door open for tons of fun.

Share your experience of being married or dating in the comment section below. I’d love to hear your thoughts!

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